All too typical

A young charmer turned up at Oxbridge last night, wandered up to where Tali and I were standing, and introduced himself with a "hi whore".  When suitably rebuked (suitably for Oxbridge, where death rays are not allowed), he made small talk in a hesitant but nearly polite way for a few minutes, only to wander off to someone else - specifically, Oxbridge's esteemed Dean Martini Discovolante - with a merry cry of "fuk"....

What is it with these guys, I have to wonder?  Am I supposed to be impressed at their unconventionality, their daring, their free speaking?  All of us can say "fuk"; most of us can go one better and spell it.  We don't say it often, though, because we have more interesting things to say.

Is it an attempt to overawe us with his sheer raw alpha-maleness?  There is, in fact, a difference between an alpha male and an arsehole.  More people should be aware of this, especially people trying to be alpha males....

Or is this the phenomenon known as "negging", where members of what's called the "pick-up artist community" disparage women until their self-esteem is eroded until they will sleep with, well, pick-up artists?  Here's the thing, guys: women will want to be with you if you are actually fun to be with.  Most of your pick-up artists are going to die virgins, and even the ones who don't will only score with women who are damaged and/or stupid enough to fall for that tactic... women, in short, who aren't worth being with themselves.

Or is it just that awful sense of deficiency you seem to see so often these days, of someone who is acting destructively or unpleasantly because they have no idea how to do anything else?  Or no idea even of the rewards of doing anything else?  Someone who has been told, or told themselves, that good manners are for dorks and losers, and then wonders why nobody wants to be around them?

Whatever.  It's another case, I fear, where someone has come into a social medium - and "social" is one of the two key things about SL - and decided it's a good place to be antisocial.  I guess all the rest of us can do is sigh and move on....